Anyone that thinks being a step-parent is easy, I would beg to differ. I am a biological mom, a step-mom and was a custodial mom. None of those jobs are easy by any means, but my personal experience tells me that being a step-parent is one of the hardest jobs to have.
As I continue to write about memories from years past, I wonder how I ever made it through those years. When my oldest step-daughter, Julia, decided her life growing up in a stable, safe home wasn't what she wanted, she moved in with her bio-mom. The bio-mom was on her fourth marriage, had loose morals, lost custody of her kids due to her drugs, alcohol, and homelessness, approved of Julia sleeping around. Julia had maintained her virginity and was involved in her church until she moved in with bio-mom. She found a new group of friends that encouraged partying and sex and Julia knew we wouldn't approve of her new found life. However, her bio-mom would. Actually her bio-mom would approve of anything to get Julia to move in with her.
Granted Julia was 18 years old, a senior in high school and loved her new adulthood that allowed her to make her own decisions. Within a month after Julia moved in with her bio-mom, she was suspended from school for skipping! That told us alot since Julia had never been in trouble at school or anywhere while she lived with us. From that point until now, Julia's life has followed her bio-mom's life. Julia is now 33 years old and on her third marriage. The apple does not fall far from the tree. Mandy, (the youngest step-daughter) on the other hand, lived with us until she was 21 years old and is on her first marriage. She took her vows more seriously than Julia.
I will be adding more "memories of step-parenting" in the upcoming blogs.
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