Parental Alienation - Will it ever end?

I have recently been reading alot about Parental Alienation and child custody issues again.  It's been over 15 years since we have dealt with those issues and it's sad to read that our court system still is as screwed up now as it was back then.

Actually, we were lucky enough to finally have a judge that threatened my husband's ex if he saw her in his courtroom again for refusing visitation, he would throw her in jail.  I'm happy to report that that was the final time he had to take her to court for withholding visitation.

It took alot of time, money, tears and patience to get to that point but it was worth it in the end.  We suffered, the children suffered and we were NOT going to give up.  Many times we wondered if it was worth fighting.  We talked about taking the children and disappearing.  We talked about waiting until they turned 18 and then request to see them when they could decide on their own.  Ultimately, we decided to continue to fight as all parents should...especially fathers.

When you are worn down, depressed from not being able to see your child, distraught over not being able to parent your child, and can't understand how the love you once had for the other parent has now turned into anger and hatred.  When you are denied your children, you wonder HOW you could have ever loved the other parent enough to make a child.  So many mixed emotions and feelings, and you wonder how you got to this point.

Children without a father in their life is similiar to living without arms or legs.  They need both to make their life complete, just like children need BOTH parents.  Parents have an obligation to their children to keep both parents (and extended family) in their child's life.  That is what makes a child's life complete.  Otherwise, the child is missing out on so much love, guidance and nurturing that they cannot possibly receive from one parent.  Each parent offers different ingredients to make their child grow to be a "complete" adult.  Denying a child the love and relationship of their father is undoubtly a form of child abuse that is guaranteed to have life long effects.

Wake up mothers!  If it wasn't for the father, you would not have your children (and vice versa).  You needed him to create your child, now allow him to help raise them!